I’m sure you’ve all seen this article at one point or another. The article “19 Things You Should Never Say to a Single Person.” If you haven’t seen it, Google it, and you’ll find it everywhere.
Older Sister actually drew my attention to this article some years ago, when it was posted on MSN. As I am single (still single, actually), I did go ahead and read it. And wrote down gut responses to each of the 19 things. And promptly forgot about it.
Wouldn’t you know, going through paperwork today, I found that article and my responses to it. And, for the most part, they still hold true.
Make of it what you will.
“It happens when you’re not looking.”
Really? Then it should be happening tenfold.
“There are plenty of fish in the sea.”
You know, I once wrote a poem about a fish in the sea. It didn’t end well for the poor fish.
“So, why are you single?”
Currently I am single just because. It’s not for lack of checking guys out, mind you. But most guys my age or older are already attached or married, and most younger guys just seem immature. Then again, there are some older guys who are just as immature. But it’s not like I’m mature for my age, so I shouldn’t be talking, I guess.
“You’re too picky.”
All I ask for is a guy who can make me laugh, who likes cats, who could tolerate a big extended family (because I have one), and who would be willing to face my depression and anxieties head-on with me. It’s not so much to ask.
“You’ll find the right person for you.”
Yeah, I hope so. Apparently, there’s someone for everyone. I just haven’t found him yet.
“He’s out there.”
See previous answer.
“It was just bad timing.”
I guess? I wouldn’t know. And is there really any such thing?
“Just have fun with it!”
I would, if I was interested in the singles scene. But I’m not right now.
“Have you tried online dating?”
No, and the very notion creeps me out. When it comes to dating and relationships, I believe in face-to-face at all times. I’m not trying to knock people who do online dating, because I know for a fact it works for some people. Just, you know, not for me.
“He just wasn’t the right guy for you.”
Maybe I wasn’t the right girl for him. Ever thought of that?
“Well, when my boyfriend and I first got together….”
ZZZZ! Most times when someone starts with that, I tune out. I don’t know why.
“When the time is right, you’ll meet somebody.”
I think every time is right. It’s just about being there. ‘The right place at the right time’ sort of thing, you know?
“Wow. I wish I were single and in your shoes.”
Why? I thought you were happy.
“Your turn next!” (at weddings)
Thankfully, no one has said that to me yet. I’m sure they’re thinking it, but to their credit they haven’t said it aloud.
“It will happen when you least expect it.”
Oh, like a club to the head, then?
“Some guy is going to come along and ruin your career/life plans.”
Huh. Is that what it is? I thought a cornerstone of love and a relationship was supporting one another, so whatever I did or he did, we’d be happy for each other. Am I wrong there?
“But you’re so pretty! Why don’t you have a boyfriend?”
*hysterical laughter for about five minutes*. Now I know you’re not talking about me!
“It just wasn’t meant to be.”
I’ve actually thought that, about the one experience I’ve had in a relationship. And it really wasn’t meant to be. It wasn’t the guy’s fault – he was a real gentleman. It was all me.
“Sure, [my guy] rescues kids from abusive homes, donated a kidney to my sister, and picks up fresh flowers for me daily on his way home from work, but will he QUIT IT with the sports on TV already?”
Now, to me, that’s just pettiness talking. Most guys like sports. Most guys will watch sports religiously. Get over it. Besides, I like watching sports, with or without men present. Just today, I watched a Chicago Cubs game on TV, all by myself. And I had fun doing so.
To all my single sisters, just remember one very important thing: